Monday, November 8, 2010

Racism - Really?

First of all, let me start by apologizing if this blog is a little incoherent.

I have been trying to put my thoughts together on this for a few days now and every time I do I get so angry that I start to shake. So I decided that instead of sit here and "think" about what I was going to write I was just going to sit down and write.

So here it goes....

There are a few things in today's world that I thought, at this juncture, that we as a society are "over".

For Instance: Do people still really think women are the lesser sex? Are people really still racist?


I figured at this point this was just something we would make jokes about like "Remember when we thought the Earth was flat?" "Haha, yeah, we were so dumb back then."

Racism is one of those things.

I was raised by parents who didn't see color. My first "real" boyfriend was Hispanic. I went to military ball with a black man. I went to China with my Asian boyfriend and his family.

I think of Racism as something we sing about in musicals like Avenue Q (Everyone's a Little bit Racist.)

And then it is thrown in my face that this is still a very real issue.


How can an, overall, intelligent society still deal with racism. HOW IGNORANT ARE WE?

What is it that people think? Do they think that Blacks or Hispanics or Asians are less intelligent? Less responsible? Less WHAT?!?!

Someone explain it to me, cause I don't get it!!!

I don't even know what to say.

*This is the point where I start shaking*

My husband, David, and I are planning to adopt. Adoption as a first choice. We don't see adoption as a "last ditch effort". David and I see a lot of children without loving homes and we see ourselves as two adults with a loving home to offer.

We just want a healthy baby/toddler (whatever we can get).

We don't care about boy, girl, black, white, hispanic, short, skinny, brunette, blond, bald....

All I can say is should we end up with a dark skinned angel in our arms if ANYONE so much as looks at my child in a degrading way I will attack.

"The most dangerous place in the world is between a mother and her child."

That is all.

I can't stand this subject anymore tonight. I need to go take a bath and seethe.

Pa'a ka waha.


  1. Unfortunately I think there are still some hold outs that were raised to believe certain stereotypes, or people who think that they've observed "enough" of one race to make blanket statements about an entire people of one decent. I wish I could say that they are simply the uneducated and the unintelligent, but I've seen examples from both sides of the university divide.

  2. I KNOW!!! That is what blows my mind! How can educated people think this way?

  3. -Ism's of any kind (sexism, racism,etc ) are rooted in fear of the unknown. Humans in general fear what they do not know. Those -ism's are dying out slowly. Each new generation sees less differences in others. It will not happen over nite but it will happen. Heck one day males might be seen as good enough to graduate from Hollins.

  4. My husband and I dont want kids right now, but we intend on adopting a teenager when we are older and putting them through college... you would think people would rally around that idea but we mostly get criticism and negativity... People think we are crazy... Its irritating that people are so ignorant. As a minority, I feel that the best/only way to change things is for people to get an education... Knowledge really is power.

  5. Holly, I agree with you - racism and other isms are antiquated. But, somehow, something doesn't quite sit right with me if, in defense or anger, I choose to "attack" those less 'mature' in their thinking. (I understand you may not have meant attack literally)I would suggest our personal capacity for love and compassion may be a better road to understanding and acceptance for those less "fortunate". In other words, though we aren't always able, it's often wise to demonstrate tolerance, love, etc. I wonder why there isn't an 'ism for those who choose not to judge those who are simply different? What do you think?
    Love the way you is...